In the Buddhist world, we talk a lot about the concept of Dependent Origination, which can be summed up in short as the understanding that everything in life comes from something. Just as in Newton’s Second Law, every action has an equal and opposite reaction, everything we experience in life is built upon the foundation of experience is leading up to each moment. Every victory, every defeat, every consequence leads you to where you are now. In the physical sense, your exercise, habits influence how well rested you are, how fit your body is, and how content you feel from moment to moment. Likewise, the same occurs in your mind.
Each experience, the way that these situations are parsed & the memories we choose to hold onto influence our every thought, action and response.
If our body is a series of muscles that can be well trained to withstand and endure physically taxing events, so too can our minds. Just as the body can learn how to do a push-up properly, we can train our consciousness to see things differently, and to experience the world differently by extension.
This is one of the inherent truths behind emotional, non-avoidance training, behind shadow work and trauma work & even behind spiritual training. Each of these experiences and the intentional development of awareness around them becomes a tool kit by which you change the way that you approach the world & thus modify how the world responds to you.
I sometimes see people communicate that they are somehow stuck in their ways as though there’s no way for them to change beyond their script, and yet it’s been my experience that this is untrue. We can absolutely learn to live more satisfying, complete, fulfilling lives!
If that was something offered to you, would you desire it? If that was offered to you, would you change your circumstances to change your fate?