One of the realizations I’ve walked away from the weekend with is this understanding that so much of what we experience is a reflection of what we’ve been conditioned to believe. If we’ve been blessed to live a happy childhood with support and positive experiences of safety, we come to expect that in life, and if we’re lucky, we come into adulthood with better tools for handling hardship. If, however, we have come up in a difficult childhood, very often we come into the adult world with a certain industrious and self-reliance informed by trauma & the various rigors experienced before we were old enough to really handle or conceptualize those experiences.
Neither is superior, and while we might wish for one or the other (often with a great preference for a happier childhood, for instance) these are simply -different- experiences. Without prescribing moral or ethical values to those experiences, we can reflect upon them and come to better understand our current status quo within our minds & hearts, and that is the purpose of this discussion.
What we experience in childhood informs our perspectives in adulthood, and each prior set of life lessons forms a chain of consequences that are motivated by these bits of conditioning we’ve encountered along the way. We learn tools and coping strategies along the way that then influence how we look at every life experience we encounter has an adult, and those experiences can and do contribute to happy or miserable life individual journeys.
You are absolutely a reflection of the landscape of evolutions shown in the mirror of your past, and it’s from the space of understanding that we can begin to affect change in our future.