This is one of those household names that people seem a bit afraid to speak, which makes good sense given how polarizing an entity she tends to be. There are quite a few stories that have been written about her to date, but the general understanding from a Biblical perspective is that she was the first-made woman who was meant to be a bride to Adam. As the story goes, she was unwilling to lay under him for the sake of lovemaking, and thus went off to seriously upset God and pledge herself to Satan. I'm taking some liberties here, as I don't find her to be adequately depicted by the portrait painted by masculine authority in the days when the mere mention of coitus was taboo.
She is, however, a very strong deity in her own right, and she marches to the beat of her own drum. To say that Lilith is an empowering entity for women is something of an understatement, as she's most interested in her own delectation and doing things her way. When I was heavily involved in the fetishistic leanings of the D/s community, her name came up frequently as a oft-invoked Goddess by slaves and mistresses alike, citing her ability to create a sense of power in situations wherein a woman might feel underappreciated or downplayed. Not ironically, this is the perfect context to meet her in, too, as where else might one see such a power struggle in such a visceral, potentially ugly light?
I've been working with Lilith on and off for years now, and she's an impetuous, willful entity who is both an initiatrix and a challenger of substance. For me, she acted as a kind of gatekeeping entity, creating change by throwing me into the thick of what was going on, forcing me to find my way and challenge my own perceptions in the process. To put this into an example that will be more easily grasped, imagine being in a situation where you're deliberating on whether or not you want to ask someone out...other deities might inspire them to love you from afar or otherwise change their disposition towards you. Lilith will fling you into interactions with that person, creating an environment in which she can actively glamour you and change the way others respond to your words and deeds.
Its a confidence-building experience, to be sure, but it can also be threatening and a tad terrifying. There are easier roads to travel than working with her, but if you've been stuck in the sidelines for the vast majority of your life, she's one way to achieve a kind of personality makeover. Lilith is not a wallflower, and she's pretty well disinclined to let you be one.
With her comes the ability to be embrassed, yes, but also the ability to make use of your embarassment towards productive aims. She will catapult you into the thick of it, and she is a remarkably rebellious spirit, but that's part of what makes Lilith herself, and its that temperament that can create the strongest of beneficial changes.
Lilith will, in corelation to this tendency, force you to develop spiritual chops, so to speak. If you're not terribly comfortable or skilled within the Art, she'll use her influence to bring you down that road. She teaches glamours, sex magic, bits of tantra, self-confidence, and in her way she's got a strongly therapeutic side for those who have been victimized in their lives.
To connect with her, you will print or trace the following sigil:
"Lilitu, Lilitu, Lilitu
From this place I call out to you.
Shrieker in the night, whisper in the dark
To your shapely form and taloned feet we hark.
Entreat with me and enchant my position
Such that the changes I seek come to fruition.
I seek...[note carefully in rhyme what it is that you wish]
Lilitu, Lilitu, Lilitu
Thank you for your presence
I honor you with incense."
Light a stick of lust-inspiring incense for her, fold up her seal and place it in your pocket. Carry it with you.
If you've done this correctly, life will take some interesting turns for you. Take note of each of these developments, as you will wish to grant her accolades in a semi-public fashion for having done so. She craves this validation, so be sure to do so.
Most importantly, enjoy! Have fun with this!