As some of you are aware, over the past few months I have been in the midst of a less-than-amicable divorce. While, ultimately, the end-result would be a good thing for me, being caught in the thick of things really didn't do me any favors.
The stress caused by the proceedings was severe enough that I lost control of most of the things directly pertaining to my own sphere. I was still able to do plenty of work for clients, to impressive effects, but still I was left holding the proverbial bag until I got my $%*# together. As a result, for a time, things got more than a little crazy and chaotic in my sphere....I'd have bouts of bad luck, strange emotional problems, and various irritating minor frustrations cropping up. It was never anything particularly severe, but each of those "bricks" built up a rather impressive wall that was becoming difficult to break down.
The act of getting my $%*# together involved working with Cassiel, in fact, as He's an angelic force associated with the sphere of Saturn. Saturn being known for its ability to remove obstacles and set barriers, I've learned that the spirits therein are often uniquely skilled at making you own and take control of your mess....
..Well, that was just what I needed, and its exactly what happened. In doing so, I learned something that I thought I'd share here. My work made me realize where things had gone wrong: I had lost control of myself and my sphere by and through my own loss of faith in my abilities and skills. For a time, I questioned everything about me, everything that had happened between myself and my ex, was filled with doubt, and, perhaps most importantly, filled with a great deal of anger.
This period of internal dissolution and aimlessness had me so focused on trying to regain control by dealing with the little nonsense that I didn't realize, for a time, that all I needed to do was take up the wand and sword, so to speak.
The long and short of it is this: for "regular humans" (ie, folks who don't attempt to control the manifestations in their lives), losing control can lead to bills piling up, additional stress, problems at work, relationship issues, so on and so forth. The thing is, magical folk aren't really that different; our issues just happen to be compounded by our magical praxis.
Up until the point at which we lose control, we are spending inordinate amounts of time working with spirits who become participants in our kingdom. As they gain our respect, so too do we gain their's, and as a result, like any friend, many like to try to help out. Directing that help is important, as otherwise they don't really have a means of understanding what we want. Nevermind the influences of those less-than-savory spiritual forces who've been waiting for our loss of control to do what they want to do.
In essence, your spiritual kingdom becomes anarchy because everyone's rowing the boat and nobody's steering. The act of taking up the wheel and being a taskmaster where necessary helps set our course aright, so its something that really cannot be overlooked.
Just my 2 cents.