...is hard work, but you don't have to do it alone.
One of the things you learn when you've been around trauma and traumagenesis for as long as I have is that these feelings are shared more often than they're not. Trauma comes in many forms and we're subjected to it every day between our home lives, work, school, socializing with others, and just dealing with the intense social dysfunction we're subjected to every day and every waking moment.
Seeing all this while actively in-recovery is HARD. Its hard not to feel isolated and alone, particularly if you've got the voices of your abusers in your head or you're forced to live through something that re-traumatizes you regularly.
When and where that's the case, its not unusual to need help. That help can come from family, friends, trained therapists, trusted advisors, spiritual counselors, from our daily rituals, and from the mindsets we carry around inside.
As it turns out, one of the toughest things to dismantle is that internalized sense of shame that we often get beaten-down by. So if you're one of those persons who has been shamed into obeisance of structures and persons that seem to exist to harm you, try to see that shame as a tool for the victimizer.
DON'T LET THEM USE THAT TO CONTROL YOU. Take your power back and defeat your shame. Don't let it be the leash or lash by which nonconsensual power is reasserted!
One of the things you learn when you've been around trauma and traumagenesis for as long as I have is that these feelings are shared more often than they're not. Trauma comes in many forms and we're subjected to it every day between our home lives, work, school, socializing with others, and just dealing with the intense social dysfunction we're subjected to every day and every waking moment.
Seeing all this while actively in-recovery is HARD. Its hard not to feel isolated and alone, particularly if you've got the voices of your abusers in your head or you're forced to live through something that re-traumatizes you regularly.
When and where that's the case, its not unusual to need help. That help can come from family, friends, trained therapists, trusted advisors, spiritual counselors, from our daily rituals, and from the mindsets we carry around inside.
As it turns out, one of the toughest things to dismantle is that internalized sense of shame that we often get beaten-down by. So if you're one of those persons who has been shamed into obeisance of structures and persons that seem to exist to harm you, try to see that shame as a tool for the victimizer.
DON'T LET THEM USE THAT TO CONTROL YOU. Take your power back and defeat your shame. Don't let it be the leash or lash by which nonconsensual power is reasserted!